I wish I were less scatter-brained, I really do. July 29, 2021 I completed my virtual Camino walk, all 770km that I had started at the end of January and I had so hoped to write this sooner. I hail from “Southern” Ontario, and that means the first two months were spent walking through winter. A few falls, and many cold fingers later the walking became easier, but the mental game got harder.
Ah, the mental game.
In the beginning I was walking “with a group” so to speak. Not in person, but online. I had started this with my old parish but their time goal was different than mine, they were set to finish on Pentecost. That deadline would have meant walking 6km a day, and if I was just converting my “steps”, I could have done that, but from the start I was determined that every km had to be purposefully done outside with the intention of the Camino. Realistically I was able to walk roughly 4km a day, about an hour of time. That gave me a projected completion of my birthday, mid July.
Once the community was gone, I stopped finding the time to get out there. It was easy to let life fill in all the spaces that I had previously carved out. By the end of June I knew I was in serious trouble, even with my bike to speed things along. When my birthday deadline was missed, a bit of internal panic rose up to ensure I finished. It spoke volumes to me personally that without community I fell short.
Not because I am one of those “gotta be self-made” – but because of the growing reality that the community before covid will take a great deal of time to be rebuilt. The mental game of isolation, lock-downs, and uncertainty is the new norm. We moved last year – we do not have the ties to this new parish that we once did. Seeing so directly how crucial that community was has brought me to a whole new prayer posture. I’m not talking being on my knees, I’m talking crumpled up in God’s lap.
Everyday I am surrounded by a ‘cloud of witnesses’, a legion of saints – but I’m not a mystic. I can’t sit down with St. Agatha and pour a cup of tea, or share a joke with St. Phillip Neri (though considering his love of practical jokes, I’m not sure he would be the first laughing saint to call upon). I remember reading once about a saint who had to learn how to tame his temper and how it humanized him, made him more approachable to ask for intercession – but when I consider the isolation around me, it is less intercession but interaction I am asking them for. A nagging thought keeps running through my head that doing that takes me down a road to some serious mental health issues.
I am not unique in history, I grew up out west and every little prairie museum was filled with letters from the settlers decrying the isolation of homesteading. It would be months without seeing another living soul – and yes, many did not make it through alive. Saints too have been subject to these desert times – and their examples give me great hope. St. Benedict, St. John of the Cross are two who have written on their survival and so in the next few months I will be turning to them, along with a few others and I look forward to sharing with you what I find. But in addition to the Saints, there was another place I turned that I can suggest for you…
After realizing how important that online community had been, I was inspired to try online OA again. Pre-covid I had tried but the technology just wasn’t there. For the last few weeks I have been zoomin’ in and it is much appreciated that those groups exist. I cannot begin to extol the help you will find through OA. YOU DO NOT NEED TO GO THIS ALONE. Learn from my super slow end of the Camino, somethings, including recovery, is best done in a group.